Updated: Jul 3, 2021
First, let me start this off by saying that I'm well aware of the fact that we aren't waxing your actual vagina. (There's always someone out there who will want to correct my terminology)
I get this question over and over from women, and let me tell you- women of all ages are concerned about the appearance of their lady parts. There are a few things that you do need to understand, and quite frankly the earlier the better!
As you age everything starts to sag, including your labia. Especially after having children- sometimes things never go back to the way they looked before pregnancy. It's simply a matter of your genes, so your best bet is to ask your mother/aunts/ or sisters who have had children. It's not something that everyone is comfortable asking about, but it really is helpful!
Another concern women often have is the coloring. It's not uncommon to also experience a darkening in color. One of the easiest things to do is to stay on top of exfoliating 2-3 times a week with a dry brush. That will obviously help with the outer area, but what about the pink areas that would be too sensitive to bring a brush anywhere near? I 100% do not like the idea of using any kind of bleach in this area. There is a product that I've used in the past by a company by the name of "South Beach Skin Solutions". There's no bleach, Hydroquinone, Kojic Acid, or Steroids. It's gentle enough to use on all your intimate areas including your anal area, bikini area, under arms, knees- you name it. A client of mine actually introduced me to it, so I know that it works because I've used it myself.
The most important thing to remember is that they come in all different shapes and sizes and there's no such thing as an "ugly" vagina. I think it's really important for women to understand that what you see in print or movies isn't the more common look! The one you have is yours and it's beautiful. More importantly- be sure to stay on top of your gynecological appointments- yes, it's one thing to be concerned about the way it looks, but we should all be even more concerned that we're all good inside and out!